Paranoid pal wants checkup, stat

Expensive Abby: How do I inform my good friend I really feel she wants a psychological well being analysis? She has been my closest good friend for 20 years, and now we have been via many trials collectively. She has been married for a few years to a person who appears very good.

Abby, she is satisfied that she’s being adopted, however doesn’t know by whom or why. She tells me about horrible arguments she has together with her husband as a result of she thinks he orchestrated conditions in public locations. As an example, she claims he seats himself ready to have a look at different girls. The poor man is blind in a single eye and has restricted imaginative and prescient within the different. She additionally believes his ex-wife flirts with him and he’s most likely dishonest together with her, though they’ve been divorced for 20 years. She resents his contact together with his grandkids and his household due to it. I ought to add that her mom was recognized with early-onset Alzheimer’s at round her age. It’s heartbreaking to observe.

I’ve talked about it quite a few instances, in addition to suggesting she converse to a pastor (she thinks the church could also be in on it) or a therapist, however she tends to dodge it. If I attempt to contact her husband, she is going to begin to assume I’m a traitor. I don’t know the way to assist. Please advise. — Trainwreck in Arizona

Expensive Trainwreck: Out of your description of your good friend’s paranoid and irrational habits, she seems to be sick. As a result of neither you nor I are certified to diagnose what has gone flawed together with her, she must be evaluated by a health care provider. It will not be betraying her to debate this together with her beleaguered husband, who could also be at a loss about the way to cope with her habits. Slightly than a betrayal, seeing that she will get assist could be an incredible favor.

Expensive Abby: I’m a “younger” senior citizen (age 90). Individuals typically assume I’m in my early 60s as a result of I look and act it. I’ve been widowed 3 times by girls youthful than I.

I not too long ago met a lady I’m very interested in. I believe the sensation could also be mutual. Now we have rather a lot in frequent. The primary time we talked on the telephone, the dialog lasted greater than three hours. Final night, I discovered whereas speaking on the telephone together with her that I’m older than her mom by one yr. Would you advise me to “again off”? — Only a Quantity in Colorado

Expensive Only a Quantity: If this girl’s mom is 89, she most likely had her daughter between the ages of 20 and 30. This is able to make the girl to whom you’re attracted between 59 and 69. I see no purpose so that you can “again off” or obscure your age. As a result of the 2 of you may have rather a lot in frequent, benefit from the relationship. (If she’s courageous sufficient to be with you after you may have killed off three youthful girls, extra energy to her!)

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.