My boyfriend is taking his ex-wife on trip with out me
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of a number of years, “Man,” usually asks me to make a journey with him. I’ve researched lodging on the prompt locations, solely to have him say they’re too expensive. Thus, we by no means go anyplace, though he might simply afford it.
Now his brother (whom I’ve by no means met) has prompt a household cruise and prompt that Man carry alongside his ex-wife, who’s within the early levels of dementia. Man has been divorced from her for many years. I haven’t stated something to him about this, although I’m shocked and harm that when a visit is lastly deliberate, Man thinks it’s nice to take her relatively than me. I’d be OK with him not taking both of us, however not with selecting her over me. Am I the loopy one right here?
P.S. Proper now, I’m dog-sitting for Man for the second time in a month whereas he’s out of state for every week attending to his ex-wife’s authorized issues, together with her will. — HOME ALONE IN FLORIDA
DEAR HOME ALONE: One thing undoubtedly appears out of focus on this household image. Your boyfriend has been divorced from his ex for a long time. Is his brother oblivious to the truth that you have got been Man’s companion for a number of years? If this can be a query of cash, it appears to me {that a} extra sensible answer than leaving you out could be for Man to carry you alongside on the cruise and he and his brother break up the price of together with his former spouse.
DEAR ABBY: My husband, “Dan,” and I are separated. Our youngsters are ages 20 and 22. Dan has simply been identified with some kind of significant medical problem (seemingly life-threatening). He has shared the knowledge with our youngsters however refuses to elucidate to me what is occurring. I’m not being nosy; I merely imagine that I ought to pay attention to what’s occurring for the sake of our youngsters.
Our children should not at the moment on talking phrases, in order that they received’t talk about the difficulty with one another. One in all them nonetheless lives at dwelling and has been identified with autism, ADHD, PTSD and main depressive dysfunction. They aren’t doing properly and have been hospitalized a number of instances over the previous 5 years. They don’t have any pals and no contact with prolonged household. The one individuals they work together with are me and their father.
I really feel it is rather necessary to maintain me knowledgeable so I can supply assist and assist each of our youngsters cope with no matter is occurring. Am I mistaken to ask my ex to elucidate to me what’s going on? — IN THE DARK IN VERMONT
DEAR IN THE DARK: You aren’t mistaken to ask your estranged husband for that info, in gentle of the truth that one of many youngsters you share has so many psychological well being challenges. Nevertheless, if he refuses, you’ll have to settle for it and cope with your youngsters as greatest you’ll be able to with restricted info. Imagine me, you have got my sympathy.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
