Controlling BF needs lie detector take a look at

Pricey Abby: I’ve been courting this man for 5 years. Two years in the past, one among his associates got here on to me by means of a textual content. I advised him I’m not the form of lady who cheats. He revered that and didn’t textual content me once more. I advised my boyfriend the very subsequent day, and he not trusts me! Ever since then, he questions what I’m doing and the place I’m and accuses me of mendacity each time. He thinks I’ve slept with each one among his associates. He tracks me. He put cameras up and accuses me of deleting every thing.

I’ve by no means cheated on him and even considered it. All of his accusations are pushing me away. He needs me to take a lie detector take a look at to show I’m harmless. I don’t really feel I ought to need to take one once I’m doing nothing flawed. I actually sit in my home and go nowhere however the grocery retailer. I don’t speak to a single individual.

I selected to do all that so he would cease accusing me, however he all the time finds one thing flawed. Ought to I take this take a look at to show he’s been flawed about me this complete time? A part of me worries that even when I take this take a look at, he’ll discover one thing else and it’s by no means gonna cease. — Prisoner in Ohio

Pricey Prisoner: Pink flag alert! Your boyfriend’s insecurity is off the charts. His controlling conduct has nothing to do with you and every thing to do along with his personal insecurities. What he’s doing to you is sick and abusive. You’ll by no means be capable to assuage this man’s suspicions.

In your security, I URGE you to finish this romance when you nonetheless have sufficient vanity to handle it. In case you are afraid to your security as you do this, contact the Nationwide Home Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and ask for steerage.

Pricey Abby: A few of my associates talk about their plans in entrance of me with out inviting me alongside. Am I proper to really feel excluded? I’m a girl in my late 20s, and I really feel stung when associates and roommates make plans to hang around with out me whereas I’m standing there. One shut good friend usually reminisces to me about women’ nights and outings with our mutual associates. It hurts, and it has made me really feel like I’m not a part of the group.

Once I advised them how this made me really feel, they assured me we had been certainly associates and mentioned I used to be being “too delicate.” I worth these associates. As a result of they’re roommates, I can’t keep away from them. For essentially the most half, they’re sort and conscientious. Ought to I convey up my harm emotions once more or drop the problem and withdraw? — Odd Woman Out

Pricey Woman: It’s possible you’ll be “too delicate,” however your roommates clearly aren’t delicate sufficient. It’s impolite to do what they’ve been doing. If I believed mentioning your harm emotions would assist the state of affairs, I’d advise you to try this, as effectively. A greater plan of action could be to drop the problem and focus on making NEW associates.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.