He needs to profit from her Social Safety

Expensive Abby: I’ve been married for 19 years to my second husband, “Jack.” Our youngsters are grown. Once we met, I used to be a enterprise proprietor, and he was retired. He has had quite a few medical points and procedures, and I’ve at all times insured him on my well being plans and been his advocate. We have now at all times had separate financial institution accounts and a family account we equally contribute to. Jack has quite a few CDs and funds that he manages. We don’t commingle these funds. I’ve by no means requested for cash from him and have at all times contributed to any of the family wants.

I nonetheless work full time and lately started receiving my Social Safety, which I’m banking for my retirement as I don’t anticipate receiving any of Jack’s cash. Possibly I’ll, however I must be proactive by myself behalf.

Jack is now seeing my elevated revenue and needs me to contribute a bigger portion of my wage to the family account. I don’t suppose his expectation is honest or warranted. I do a lot of the family and yard chores since he has develop into restricted in his capacity and power. Please advise. — Working Gal in Washington

Expensive Working Gal: The way in which you have got described it, your marriage appears extra like a enterprise relationship than a partnership. If you’re included in your husband’s property plans, you need to know what they’re. Since you don’t know any particulars, and it’s possible you’ll want these funds later, you need to talk about this with YOUR monetary adviser earlier than placing any of your retirement cash into the family account.

Expensive Abby: My niece lately acquired her doctorate, and I’ve been invited to a celebration. A small bakery will probably be catering the meal. I’ve celiac illness, which suggests I’ve dietary restrictions (no wheat) that my household is conscious of as a result of one other niece additionally has celiac. The bakery is small and is situated in a small rural group. I attempted trying up their menu on-line with out success.

How do I deal with this? I inquired and was instructed they may have a baked potato on the menu. Ought to I convey my very own meals to the celebration? Ought to I not attend or attend and have solely the baked potato? I like baked potatoes, however I might in all probability want extra to eat than that. Ought to I convey up my dietary restrictions previous to the celebration or drive the four-hour spherical journey in silence? — Restricted in Ohio

Expensive Restricted: It says within the Bible, “Search and ye shall discover.” As a result of the bakery doesn’t have a web based presence doesn’t imply it doesn’t have a phone. Use it, inform them about your dietary wants and ask when you could be accommodated past a baked potato. Chances are you’ll be pleasantly stunned, particularly because you aren’t the one relative who has dietary restrictions. Nonetheless, if the reply isn’t any, convey one thing alongside you CAN eat and devour it close to the tip of your four-hour drive moderately than endure in silence.

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.